Gone are the days when we let bad things happen to our kids.
Bad grade? Must be the teacher’s fault.
Your kid’s not the starter? The coach must have something against him.
Your team lost? That’s ok – everyone gets a trophy.
Here’s the thing:
It took me a while to realize this when I was a younger coach, but a lot of times the losses do more to develop our kids than the wins do.
Don’t get me wrong: I hate losing and I’m certainly not looking to make excuses or rationalize poor performance.
But what if there was a way to develop kids who had the resilience they needed to be successful in life, and, at the same time, the tools they needed to win more matches or games?
The words we choose to use and the way we choose to frame losses, failures or setbacks for our athletes is so important for creating an environment of growth through failure.
I recently has wrote an article for my friend Chris Fore’s site about how we, as coaches, can use these types of setbacks to help build stronger competitors.
Would love to hear your thoughts!